Relativity
I should have been reading Dynamic Programming and Optimal Control when I somehow found myself reading this blog entry instead. It's interesting how the age when one begins to think in terms of “I probably shouldn’t still be single at my age” is all relative to his/her surrounding environment. She was 27 and only beginning to feel the pressure. While last time I was home my grandmother was already projecting her fear that I am going to end up like those girls that are in their mid 30’s and still single by relating all sorts of marriage/love/dating advice (don't ask!). Given that the majority of my friends are now married, my grandmother’s fear is somewhat justified, but at 22, I hardly consider myself an old maid, and I’m no where near the point of desperation where I’m ready to marry a man on the sole basis that he is a source of (Jewish) sperm and money (my grandmother’s idea of a perfect match).
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My friend's great-grandmother told her point-blank at their last lunch together that it was "time for her to get married now." Most of her friends are married as well, and either pregnant or already have kids, so she's actually feeling a bit uncomfortable.
I'm glad I seem not to be experiencing that sort of thing--not that settling down isn't on my mind, but putting pressure on people to marry if they don't have a potential spouse lined up seems stupid.
My grandmother’s not being too bad actually. In fact, the other day we were having a reasonable conversation, when she agreed that I’m still young, and there’s no rush, and there’s really no reason to get married before I graduate, but I should still go out and line up a trail of boyfriends...Haha.
But what I meant by "feeling the pressure," was not so much the pressure of people pushing the singles to get married, but more the pressure of being surrounded by couples, and realizing that there are fewer and fewer single people around to rely on for companionship (people in relationships don't make for the best of friends to say the least). That is, it's not so much that it sucks to be single, but rather it sucks that everyone else seems to have been swept away...
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